Love is an important emotion. It is the foundation of all other emotions. Without love, there can be no joy, no friendship, no hope. Love is even the foundation for the negative emotions such as hate, fear and sorrow.
Relationships are built upon love. The strength of the love determines the strength of the relationship. As the strength of the love grows and falls, the relationship strengthens or weakens accordingly. Good friends may become bitter enemies when the love disappears on one or both sides.
The soul survives on love. The opposite of love, hate, burns away the soul, sickening it. The absence of love is almost impossible, since that would say the person was completely without emotion.
Mental and spiritual pain has the effect of “blocking” the love in the soul. This tends to cause the feelings of “heartache.” It is an empty feeling felt inside the chest.
In the bible, in the first and second chapters of Genesis is the Creation. In there it says, “And God created man in His own image.” Throughout history man has translated that to mean that were are mirror images of God. I disagree. God is an all-powerful spirit that is the embodiment of Love. That is said throughout the Bible. It is our spirit, or soul, that was created in his image. For that reason, our soul is Love.
God created physical bodies to house our souls of love, and he gave us the will to do as we please.
Satan is the opposite of Love. He is Hate. He is the corrupter of Love. When Satan first tempted Adam and Eve, he introduced into their souls the first taint of hatred, and the first feeling of pain. That taint, called “Original Sin” in the Bible, has been passed throughout the generations. Everyone is born with the taint. The soul is inherently Love, with only the taint of corruption. The soul always longs to be pure Love, the way it was created.
Due to the corruption of Love, we as humans, try to fill the gaps with physical pleasures. Since the corruption is in the soul, the physical pleasures usually do not help. Sometimes, these physical pleasures can corrupt the soul even more.
I am not saying that physical pleasures are bad, only that they can be bad. It all depends on how the physical pleasures are used, in a matter of speaking.
Sex is one of the physical pleasures that is often abused. God told Adam and Eve to “be fruitful and multiply.” Sex accomplishes this. Everyone has the inner need and desire to have sex. There is nothing wrong with that, especially when it is used in Love.
People today seem to use sex for instant gratification. They want only the physical pleasure it achieves. To many it covers a pain inside. To others, it is used in anger and hate. Others use it in greed, a form of hate, to satisfy their desires. Few are the people who use sex for Love, as it was intended by God.
In the Bible, adultery is a sin. People today seem to do it quite frequently. There is also another form of adultery that I see. This adultery does not come from a married person sleeping with another person, but the unmarried people who “sleep around.” These people are using sex for their own benefit, not for Love.
Marriage is a union in Love, theoretically speaking. A true marriage should last, if both are truly strong in Love.
Then why are there so may broken marriages? The marriage may have happened for numerous reasons. The most common is sex. People tend to confuse sex with love, and get married for that reason. When the sex dies, the love dies, then the marriage dies.
Of course, the marriage could end for many different reasons. It all falls back on one thing, though. The Love was not strong enough.
As of yet, I have never had a girlfriend. I have had crushes and strong friendships, but not a girlfriend. I am also still a virgin. In today’s society, it is very rare to find a 22 year old virgin.
I get harassed frequently about my virginity. Everyone tells me that I should have sex; that I don’t know what I’m missing. To that, I always reply that I am waiting until marriage. I am waiting for the right girl to come along.
Love, for me, is more important than sex. I say marriage for convenience sake, since that is what I prefer. In actuality, I want to build a relationship that will be strong in Love before I have sex. A strong relationship takes time to build. I do not want to make the mistake of rushing the relationship forward too quickly. If the sex does come before marriage, I want to make sure that the Love is there to back it up.
Marriages are supposed to last. “‘Till death do us part.” I want my marriage to last, so the Love must be there. Without Love, the marriage is over before it begins.
People tell me I should have sex now, to see what it is like. That way I can know the difference between “good sex” and “bad sex.” Also, they say, so I will know how different sex is. They say that if I don’t, my marriage won’t last because I will become dissatisfied, wanting to know the difference. They say that is one of the reasons for adultery. I disagree. If the Love is strong enough, the sex will not matter. Love is a powerful force.
Love, relationships, sex and marriage are all intertwined. Love forms the foundation for everything. As long as the love is felt in the soul, things are fine. If the pleasures are mearly physical, not extending to the soul, it is wrong. You cannot take the physical pleasures with you when you die. The love in your soul is what grants you eternal life.